November 2009

Be Here Now

by Dr. Kamen

The words Remember and Be Here Now in white on a blue background with lines connecting in every direction over a chair in the middle of the image

Nothing during my rigorous training to become a psychologist thirty years ago prepared me to be in the present moment. We focused on anxiety, depression, loneliness, suffering, isolation, abandonment, post-traumatic stress and other disorders. Even back then the emphasis on these words and diagnoses did not quite resonate with me. Alternative therapies began to emerge in the 1970s and 1980s.I studied them all and realized that something was still missing.

Although my psychotherapy practice was primarily traditional, out of curiosity, I researched the teachings of Richard Alpert otherwise known as Ram Dass. Ram Dass’s philosophy of Be Here Now intrigued me. For hours I would listen to his meditations on the beaches of Martha’s Vineyard and in university auditoriums. The idea of learning to be in the moment, rather than constantly focusing on past psychological hurts and injuries compelled me to learn more. [click to continue…]

Grateful woman with outstretched arms

Sometimes I get caught up in the feeling of what’s missing and what I don’t have. Invariably this brings me to a familiar dark place. I have learned that when this feeling arises it is my cue to get back to basics. I need to remember what is good and the gifts in my life.

Gratitude is the experience of thankfulness and appreciation. Every religion and philosophy embraces the idea of gratitude as one of the great virtues and character strengths. It has been shown repeatedly in the research that people who express their gratitude are generally happier and more fulfilled in their lives than those who do not. Also people who are grateful tend to be healthier physically and psychologically than their non-grateful counterparts. [click to continue…]


By Randy Kamen, Ed.D.

Loneliness, troubled relationships, failing marriages, serious parenting concerns, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, and complicated pain problems. No one escapes being affected by one or more of these serious issues at some time in life. These difficulties can be managed and in many cases overcome. The secret to successfully moving through many of life’s challenges lies in establishing and maintaining healthy relationships. At times our own light goes out and can be rekindled by a spark from another person.

What Women Need: The 12 Prescriptions for Gaining Balance and Happiness delivers the most effective strategies for establishing a healthy relationship with oneself, with others and gaining balance in everyday life. These are the stories of courageous women who were willing to put themselves on the line in an effort to find greater inner peace and joy. Each chapter reveals different relevant life struggles that we collectively share as women. This book can save the reader years of struggle in navigating through difficult life experiences.

What Women Need examines key factors for promoting women’s health, happiness and well-being. One of the central premises woven throughout the book is that when relationships thrive, women find themselves better equipped to face life’s challenges and realize their potential. Also, strong relationships and solid support systems contribute to both physical and psychological well-being. If one does not know how to develop and sustain healthy relationships, the loneliness, isolation, and pain that ensue can wreak havoc.

What Women Need teaches specific tools and strategies for navigating the stormy challenges of life’s transitions, losses, and disappointments. This book also provides a valuable, practical guide for women wanting more satisfying, resilient, and fulfilling relationships. Using compelling cases and narrative stories of women who suffer challenges in various life situations, this book explores universal themes of alienation, pain, happiness, and love—with friends, colleagues, partners, spouses, and children. Stories involve women ranging in age from mid-twenties through late fifties.

In addition, this book provides prescriptive advice at the end of each chapter and at the end of the book for easy reference.  These prescriptions highlight the strategies for women overcoming life’s challenges, gaining balance and learning strategies for happiness. The seven prescriptions focus on the relationship with oneself, with others, and the building of a support network. Each chapter’s text and prescriptions help the reader in:

  • Developing a comfort zone with oneself and appreciating time alone
  • Unleashing personal empowerment
  • Transforming relationships through better communication
  • Creating and sustaining reliable support networks
  • Balancing love, work, fun and adventure
  • Saving years of unneeded struggle


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Photos directly above by Laura Bergstein, all rights reserved; Portrait Photography of Dr.Randy Kamen by Janet Wolbarst Photography