My favorite and only resolution for the coming year is to have more fun. This year my commitment to myself is to clear the decks for at least an hour a day so that I can devote more time to doing things that make me laugh, feel enriched, balanced or energized. Not the usual resolution of ‘I’m going to work out and get in better shape, cut back on caffeine, eat more vegetables, get to bed earlier or be even be more focused and productive.’
I’m so used to thinking about productivity and self improvement that I sometimes forget that chatting it up with friends or dancing around my living room blasting the classic rock station, powerfully impacts my vitality and ability to stay focused throughout the rest of the day. My resolve is to make sacred time for play. [click to continue…]
“When I get a raise, then I’ll be happy.” “When I find the man of my dreams, then I’ll be happy.” “When I have a baby, then I’ll be happy.” “When I finish this project, then I’ll be happy.” These are some of the thoughts that run through the mind in an attempt to capture happiness.
As a psychologist I come from a background of studying the human condition, which is often about inner demons and suffering. For the past decade the field of psychology has slowly turned a corner. Positive psychology studies the firing of the brain when we are feeling optimistic, connected, grateful, love, altruistic and general happiness. [click to continue…]
Affirmations can be used to bring positive and lasting change to your life. Every thought you have supports your mind in creating your moment to moment reality. Our beliefs are learned thought patterns that we have developed since childhood. Some of these thoughts patterns support our everyday life experiences and others sabotage us from achieving our goals and dreams. [click to continue…]
The holiday season typically brings to mind images of families and loved ones gathered around a blazing fire, roasting chestnuts, exchanging gifts. Sharing mugs of spiced hot apple cider, playing games or simply having fun together.
There is another reality to this idyllic scene. Depression and psychological dysfunction is at an all time high throughout the holidays and family issues often become magnified.
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Years ago while in college I used to begin my day with unconscious negativity. While getting ready for school, I would look in the mirror and say something like “Your skin looks lousy today.” “You look really tired.” “This is going to be an unbearably long day juggling work and school.” From the start I felt defeated. I didn’t realize how these thoughts were contributing to feeling bad about myself or the possibilities of the day.
On a whim I took a yoga class with a girlfriend more for exercise than for spiritual enlightenment. It was there that I was introduced to the idea of creating a positive state of mind with my own thoughts. I learned about the power of affirmations. At the time it was a complete shock to me that I could control my thoughts. I decided to give it a go. [click to continue…]